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Friends: How Many of us Have Them?

Good friends are hard to come by. The amount of friends you have is definitely not as important as the quality of the friendship. I’m a firm believer that the more friends you “claim” to have, the more drama will be in your life. Because let’s face it, everyone is NOT your friend! I just want to say how much I admire the friendship between my boyfriend and his crew. They’ve been friends since high school, and now going on 10 years later, they’re just as close as ever. I’m a newbie in the group, well, 5 years in, but they’ve all accepted me. I remember when I first met them, it was so awkward and uncomfortable because I felt like an outsider in this tight knit group of people who practically grew up together. But they’re all so humble, that we’ve practically become family. I enjoy the times that we spend together. Actually experiencing and looking to try new things together. One lesson that I have learned from Ryan is how to be a better friend. For most of my adult life, I’ve been a loner. I sit in my little bubble and don’t worry too much about what’s going on on the outside of it. As he will often say, “I’m usually in my own little world”. I’m an introvert…most of the time. I enjoy being around people, but I also need my space, and have days where I don’t want to be bothered with anyone. I have days where I ignore calls…or see you texting me and respond days later pretending like I’m just noticing it or forgot. Hey! That’s just me! I like to say I’m the people person that doesn’t like people. Hahahaha!! But I’m learning to open up more to others and even hold tighter to my own friendships as well. You’ll often hear people say that they don’t need friends or this whole “no new friends” ordeal. But I don’t believe that’s true! The thing is, in order to KEEP a friend, you must first learn to BE a friend. Usually the ones saying this have not mastered this trait yet. It’s VERY possible to outgrow friendships as well. I once heard Steve Harvey say “you are most like the people you hang around the most.” He used the example that if you hang around four broke people, eventually, you WILL be the fifth. Sometimes you need new friends to elevate you and take you to higher levels in life. There may be things your old friends aren’t able to teach you. Ever heard the song, “make new friends but keep the old. One is silver and the other’s gold”? No? Well, I grew up watching Gullah Gulla Island instead of listening to Drake (although he’s one of my favorite rappers).
But the point is, we all need SOMEBODY. And I feel there’s a need and purpose for each relationship you hold; be it a friend, a lover, or a family member. It’s finding the RIGHT relationships to hold on to, that’s the hard part.

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